Finding out that you are pregnant following a miscarriage
Finding out that you are pregnant is generally a time of elation. Finding out that you are pregnant following the loss of a previous pregnancy can bring with it a whole range of emotion.
Your worry and concern may prevent you from feeling the pure joy that this news can bring. It may be a while before you relax and feel free to enjoy being pregnant again.
First trimester of a new pregnancy following a miscarriage
If you’ve had a miscarriage, the first trimester of a new pregnancy can be an especially difficult time. It is likely to be fraught with a variety of emotions. Since 80% of miscarriages happen within the first 12 weeks, it can be a time of great uncertainty.
Fearing that you will lose this pregnancy is common and the feeling is natural. You may feel that you can’t enjoy the new pregnancy until you are past the point of the earlier loss.
A new pregnancy following a miscarriage may bring about mixed emotions
As well as stress and concern for your unborn baby, you may feel a great variety of emotions.
You may detach yourself from the pregnancy as a coping mechanism. Alternatively, you may feel guilty that you are moving on from your previous pregnancy.
Women describe this time as like being on an emotional roller coaster, sometimes happy, sometimes sad, fearful, afraid. Despite these feelings, please don’t lose hope.
Taking care of yourself when you are pregnant following a miscarriage
- Take care of yourself during this pregnancy as you would during any pregnancy.
- Embark upon a period of intensive self-care.
- Surround yourself with loved ones who can lend their support and discuss any anxieties you have with health professionals.
- Eat well, get lots of sleep, and try to remain calm.
- Look after yourself and your precious cargo.
- Meditation can be a good way of managing stress levels and calming your emotions.
Recognize/accept your previous loss
Recognizing and accepting your previous loss may help you move forward. If you haven’t done so already, planning a small ceremony or act of remembrance – whether it is just for you as a couple, your family, or yourself – may help you move on from your previous loss.
A small token such as writing a letter, lighting a candle, or saying a prayer can be meaningful ways to remember your child.